& her brother Jamie
the beach – May 2005
September 2006 – The Final Chapter
Our beautiful daughter Abbie died at 7.36 am this morning. After
a fairly restless night she began to experience intense pain in her leg at
5.30am this morning. I managed to give her a dose of oral morphine and at
around 6.00am I climbed into bed with her and was comforting her. At around
6.45am she began to fit and I was able to cuddle, comfort and reassure her.
This was the first time in a while that I had been able to cuddle her as she
had been in too much discomfort. Mike took over while I had a bath, then
Jamie who was getting ready for school went to her room to say goodbye and
she just died.
We are truly devastated that we have lost our child but pleased
she is no longer suffering. It is a real comfort to know that only five weeks
ago she was playing, running and swimming at a party and this time four weeks
ago spent 2 hours disco dancing. Last Monday she made flower shaped biscuits,
on Wednesday made a supermarket till out of boxes and collected Jamie
from school and Thursday painted egg cups. On Saturday morning we took
her for a walk in her buggy to the local shops and she insisted on renewing
her library book.
We have arranged Abbie's funeral on Friday at 2pm
at St Martins Church, Ockham Road South, East Horsley. The funeral service will
be child friendly. We are requesting that children wear their school uniform
and bring a flower (unwrapped) from their garden. These will be
collected and scattered on Abbie's casket when she is buried. We also
request family flowers only but donations may be made to Abbie's
Fund which will shortly be becoming a registered charity. Adults may wear
some pink if possible. We do not want Abbie's funeral to be too sombre - as
Mike says he wants Abbie to look down and wish she was there.
Immediately after the service Abbie is having a private
woodland burial in a natural burial ground with only immediate family. The
concept of a natural burial is to return the body back to nature. The site
will be marked by a tree and bluebells.
Abbie Elizabeth Shaw
1st March 2001 – 11th September 2006